Asian girls are often sick of the same old questions being asked, so try to avoid them. Perhaps you’ve got your eye on a really cute Asian girl at work, and you’re building up the courage to speak to her. It can be difficult to know how to break the ice, so you might think it’s a good idea to ask her some questions to get her talking. When thinking about what to ask her, it’s best to try and avoid stereotypes related to her race, as this will just make the situation awkward. Let’s look at four questions that Asian girls are sick of hearing from guys trying to ask them out on a date.
Is it difficult being from Asia?
What?! You’d be surprised at how often a guy asks a question like this to try and show he can be sympathetic and caring, when in reality it’s just downright offensive. By asking a question like this, you’re essentially tarnishing a whole continent as ‘difficult,’ so you would be better off avoiding loaded questions like this all together. Also bear in mind that just because she looks like she’s from Asia, she might have been born somewhere else. So never assume you know her with a loaded question.
What’s your favourite Chinese food?
So Asian girls don’t eat pizza? Unless you’re on some kind of round-the-world culinary question and answer situation, don’t ask her what her favourite Chinese food is. Food is an awesome topic for a first date, but assuming that because she’s Asian she must like Chinese food is a big no-no. Play it safe and ask her questions about her favourite foods by all means but stay away from making assumptions based upon her looks.
How do you manage to stay so skinny?
When you’re dating a girl, regardless of where she’s from, don’t under any circumstances talk about her weight! It’s a guaranteed way of making things awkward and ruining any potential chemistry between the two of you. Even if you think you’re paying her a compliment, it’s best to avoid the topic of weight and body size altogether. After all, in some parts of Asia, being skinny is not at all desirable, as excess body weight is a sign of affluence and comfort.
Have you ever dated a foreign guy before?
Quite frankly, this question is wrong on so many levels. First of all, it’s none of your business who she’s dated in the past! Talking about previous partners is dangerous territory in long-term relationships, let alone on the first date or when you’re trying to get to know someone. What’s more, asking her if she’s ever dated a foreign guy before is drawing attention to the fact that you’re different, which isn’t necessarily a good thing. Spend time getting to know her in the present moment, rather than focusing on her dating experiences in the past.
Getting to know a girl before dating her can be tricky, but it’s important if you’re plucking up the courage to ask her out on an Asian date. Instead of asking her awkward questions about her culture, stick to open questions that enable you to get more about her, that way you’re likely to strike up a much more natural connection.
