Seven top tips for new relationships
Have you recently started a new relationship? If so, you’re probably enjoying the so-called ‘honeymoon phase,’ where everything is going well, and you can’t get enough of each other. But to keep things exciting for longer than a few weeks or months, you will need to make a concerted effort to keep the romance alive. Here are seven top tips for new couples who want to get the best out of their relationships.
Keep the past in the past
We all have a past and very often it involved one or more lovers. But there’s very little benefit of dragging up the past and spoiling what you have with your current partner. Let bygones be bygones and focus on what is special about your new partner.
Ditch the comparisons
It can be all too tempting to compare your current girlfriend to an ex. But doing so only leaves room for disappointment and perhaps resentment. Think about your new partner for who she is, not how she compares to an ex.
Actions speak louder than words
It’s common for new partners to promise the world only to deliver disappointment. When you’re embarking on a new relationship, focus on what your partner does, more than what they say. It’s easy to talk a good game at the start of a new relationship, so don’t be lulled into a false sense of security by empty promises.
Let your guard down
While lots of people want to protect their vulnerabilities at the start of a new relationship, doing so prevents the other person from getting to know the real you. After a few months have passed, your vulnerabilities will start to show. Showing your vulnerabilities will help to deepen your connection and strengthen your bond.
Deceit is one of the most damaging things for a new relationship. Even if you’re only slightly embellishing the truth, being dishonest in the early days doesn’t bode well for the future. Stick to the truth and let your partner get to know the real you, so you don’t need to worry about keeping up with your lies as your relationship develops.
Avoid being needy
Nobody wants to be in a relationship with a needy partner. Constantly calling, messaging, and demanding your girlfriend’s attention is a sure way to upset and frustrate her. While it’s good to show that you care, make sure you get the balance right and don’t demand too much of her time.
Don’t sacrifice your current relationships
When you’re in a new relationship, it can be easy to get sucked in and want to spend every waking second with the new love of your life. But don’t fall into this trap. Continue investing in your relationships with your family and friends, as it’s vital that you keep these people in your life as you progress with your new partner.
New relationships are exciting and make you feel alive. But as you get to know the new love of your life, you need to make sure you do all that you can to keep the flame alive into the future, so your relationship doesn’t stagnate once the honeymoon period is over.