Our tips will help you to avoid the dreaded friend zone.
“You’re like my best friend.”
Are there five more deflating words to hear after spending months trying to take things to the next level with the girl of your dreams? Probably not.
But so many people find themselves in the friend zone without understanding how they got there. To help you to avoid the dreaded friend zone, here are five ways you can avoid it with a woman you’re hoping to date.
Don’t wait too long
While it’s good to get to know someone a little before making a move, waiting too long could spell disaster. If you become too familiar with one another you can easily wander into friendship territory without seeing it coming. If you fancy a woman and you’ve liked her for a long time, make a move as quickly as you can. The longer you wait, the harder it will be to take things to the next level.
Don’t offer your shoulder to cry on
You don’t want to be the guy she turns to, to talk about other guys! That’s a disaster waiting to happen. If you become her shoulder to cry on, she will bring you her trials and tribulations when dating other guys, without seriously considering you as a potential date.
Don’t be too needy
Avoid falling into the trap of planning your life around your crush. While you might think she will be flattered by your willingness to rearrange plans to spend time with her, you’ll find that she’s busy telling her girlfriends how amazing you are – as a friend. If you put her on a pedestal and treat her like a celebrity, she will treat you like a fan. A fan who she keeps firmly in the friend zone.
Don’t be evasive
You need to be as confident as possible when you spend time with your crush. Don’t be evasive when it comes to how you feel about her, as she won’t know unless you tell her. The more time you spend skirting around your feelings, the less progress you will make with your relationship. When issues like dating and partners come up, pluck up the courage to tell her how you really feel.
Do the right thing – make a move!
If you like someone, you need to do something about it. It’s as simple as that. While you might tell yourself that you ‘don’t want to lose her as a friend,’ you will be forever wondering what might have been. The worst case scenario is that she will say no. And if that happens to you, take your medicine and move on. After all, there are plenty more fish in the sea.
While it’s certainly healthy to enjoy friendships with the opposite sex, you don’t want to get trapped in the friend zone by someone you want to become intimate with. Hopefully, these five tips will save you from the friend zone, and give you the motivation you need to ask her out!
